Who knew that having a child of my own would make me extra-aware of others parenting styles. (Doesn't it happen to every mother?) So here are my promises to my child based on the observations of others.
1. You will know you are loved. I will tell you at least once a day that I love you. I will do my best to show you as much (or more) affection as you need to know it. I don't want you questioning if you are loved - EVER.
2. You will know the meaning of the word, "No." I will not be afraid to use this word when it is needed.
3. You will not get everything that you want. But I will do my best to make sure you have everything you NEED. And you will know the difference between wants and needs.
4. You will know how to act in public. I will teach you what is appropriate and what is not. If you have difficulty with this concept - I am not afraid to leave whatever public venue we are at.
5. I will do my best to praise you in public and private and correct you as privately as possible. Now if your behavior warrants it, you will be corrected in public as well.
6. You will know the Benedictine teaching of moderation and utilize it in your life.
7. You will dress modestly as long as you live in my house. (and hopefully after)
8. You will know the importance of your faith.
9. I am always here to listen to your stories, concerns, and to kiss your boo-boos (real and imagined)
10. You will know the importance of personal hygiene. I will make sure you don't smell bad and look like you have bathed recently. Now if you come home covered in mud after playing hard with siblings or fishing with your daddy, I reserve the right to hose you off before letting you come inside to bathe.
Showing posts with label Modesty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Modesty. Show all posts
Saturday, July 14, 2012
Thursday, February 23, 2012
A Promise to my Daughter
So I made a promise to my daughter (well and to her older brother
too) before she was born that I would never take a video or picture of
them that I wouldn't want to see repeated as a teenager. Basically NO
NAKED BABY PICTURES. You can call me a prude, or whatever else you can
come up with, but I have my reasons.
Why would I take a pass on such cute pictures you might ask? Well I believe in this thing called modesty. I believe kids are growing up too fast and being exposed to things way too early. That being said, I do not see the point of pictures of naked (or diaper only) babies. I have found that fully clothed, my kid is still pretty stinking cute (and warmer).
I am enjoying dressing my child up in ridiculous outfits and taking her picture. I figure these photos are a good substitute for the embarrassing naked baby pictures. I mean, for heaven's sake, I put her in my Christmas stocking, took her picture, then sent it out to all of our families with the caption "Our little stocking stuffer." If she isn't completely embarrassed by that when she's 15, I don't know what else I could have done to make it worse. :D
That being said, when she is 15 or older or younger, and comes to me trying to wear some ridiculous outfit that is not modest or posing stupidly in a picture (we pray neither happens, but just in case), we can pull out the baby photos and say, "Look, we gave you the gift of preserved modesty. It is your job to take that gift and foster it." Then I will just let her dad ground her until he feels she has learned her lesson and is willing to dress and act appropriately.
Why would I take a pass on such cute pictures you might ask? Well I believe in this thing called modesty. I believe kids are growing up too fast and being exposed to things way too early. That being said, I do not see the point of pictures of naked (or diaper only) babies. I have found that fully clothed, my kid is still pretty stinking cute (and warmer).
I am enjoying dressing my child up in ridiculous outfits and taking her picture. I figure these photos are a good substitute for the embarrassing naked baby pictures. I mean, for heaven's sake, I put her in my Christmas stocking, took her picture, then sent it out to all of our families with the caption "Our little stocking stuffer." If she isn't completely embarrassed by that when she's 15, I don't know what else I could have done to make it worse. :D
That being said, when she is 15 or older or younger, and comes to me trying to wear some ridiculous outfit that is not modest or posing stupidly in a picture (we pray neither happens, but just in case), we can pull out the baby photos and say, "Look, we gave you the gift of preserved modesty. It is your job to take that gift and foster it." Then I will just let her dad ground her until he feels she has learned her lesson and is willing to dress and act appropriately.
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